Heart-to-Heart Abortion Conversations invites you to share deeply about your values and thoughts about abortion access. Having a “heart-to-heart” also means listening just as deeply to the thoughts and feelings others. Dialogue, storytelling, and intentional conversations are powerful tools to organizing and strengthening our movement. Heart-to-Heart Abortion Conversations are designed serve as a catalyst to grow your leadership, deepen connections, and make abortion access a reality. By tapping into love and empathy, speaking from our values, and seeking to understand and really hear others, we will be able to connect and build relationships, even when we don’t agree on everything about abortion.
How to join:
- Preorder your deck of conversation cards or download a partial set soon. This card deck will be actively used through February 2018 as part of a culture shift campaign.
- Pledge to have five conversations using this form. Share your pledge using an image below!
- As you have heart-to-heart conversations: Take a selfie and share the story of your conversation with #h2h or Text us (number coming soon; watch this space) with a heart emoji every time you have a conversation!
Are you ready to have a Heart-to-Heart about abortion? Here are some questions to ask yourself before you begin. You don’t need to jump in cold! Take some time to prepare, reflect, learn, and plan first.
- What are your values, personal beliefs, and stereotypes about abortion? A heart-to-heart begins not with another person, but with yourself. Not with talking, but with self-reflection before you ever begin.
- How well do you know your conversation partner? What do you know about their views and values about abortion? What systemic factors impact or limit their understanding and access to abortion? What do you need to prepare in specific ways based on what you know about them? What is a realistic expectation you can have for where the conversation will go? (Not everyone can go from negative to positive feelings in an instant!)
- What is your purpose for holding this conversation? Do you want to raise awareness, build certain skills, change attitudes, grow community etc? The clearer you are, the more successful your conversation will be. Also make sure your goals are in alignment with our overall purpose of these conversation spaces.
- What are your strengths, growth edges, and triggers? Where do you need support? What do you need to plan for?
- Do you have the information you need going in? While you do not need to be an expert on the topic of abortion access, you might feel more comfortably going in if you are well-versed in the topics you’re choosing to center in the conversation. Do some research, grow your knowledge, and clarify your values about abortion access in advance. Check out this multimedia syllabus to get started!
- Do you have ideas for the beginning, middle, and end of the conversation? How would you like to start it? Do you need to set some agreements to show each other respect before jumping in? Other than talking, are you ready to listen deeply? How would you like the conversation to end? Here are some helpful tips!
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS?
- If the person you’re talking with is in a space of transition or unsure about how they relate to the issue of abortion access, set a goal in advance for how you’d like the conversation to end. Will they respond to you listening and showing empathy as they ask questions? You can connect them with information and offer to be there for them with an open mind and heart as they explore more.
- If the person you’re talking with is strongly opposed to abortion, set a goal before you start for how you’d like the conversation to end. What’s the most important part of the conversation to you? Do you want to show them that they can ask questions about abortion access safely? Do you want to show that you are a source of information and invite them to question one of their viewpoints? Do you just want to be able to say the word “abortion” in their presence? Be realistic, authentic, and willing to end the conversation without requiring them to share your perspective. You don’t have to change their mind overnight.
- If you’re talking with someone who already supports abortion access, you can move them into action for funds, as well as to connect their abortion support more deeply with racial, economic, and reproductive justice. They may join you in supporting abortion funds!
BUILD YOUR KNOWLEDGE
- Get the Facts from We Testify
- What is the Hyde Amendment?
- Learn about our political & cultural agenda.
- Article with tips from abortion fund leaders on How to talk with your family and friends about abortion!
- Review the Abortion Funding Multimedia Syllabus for many more resources!
The National Network of Abortion Funds (NNAF) builds power with members to remove financial and logistical barriers to abortion access by centering people who have abortions and organizing at the intersections of racial, economic, and reproductive justice. We envision a world where every reproductive decision, including abortion, takes place in thriving communities that are safe, peaceful, and affordable. We envision a world where all people have the power and resources to care for and affirm their bodies, identities, and health for themselves and their families—in all areas of their lives. As we shift the conversation about abortion, it will become a real option, accessible without shame or judgment.
Our movement to build power and make abortion access possible need to inspire, resonate with, and activate our communities towards change. To do this, we are building up the leadership and organizing capacity of our members, particularly those most impacted by reproductive injustice, to engage our communities in strategic ways that will realize our vision of abortion access.